Death Can Be Beautiful


Although, the thought in this blog post belongs to me, the title was given by my dearest school friend Minu

Some are really fortunate. They’re born, and don’t get old. Death takes them into its arms, hugs them tight before getting old.

My sister-in-law was terminally ill and was brought back to home last night. Doctors and well wishers had already given up hope. Even she gave it up last evening.

She was placed on bed and all the family was around her chanting prayers. Her face was radiant, for the first time in months. All the wrinkles on he forehead disappeared.

She was smiling and tears were dripping from her eyes. Maybe, for the first time it wasn’t the tears of pain.

Her final breath left her with a smile on her face.

Isn’t this beautiful?!

She had all the love and support at the last time. Her hands were in hands of her sisters and elder son.

Thousands of people die on roads without anyone even noticing them. Some have all the wealth and power in the world but no one around.

When she was dying people talked about miracles.

Isn’t this a miracle?!

A satisfying death can be as beautiful as a satisfying living.

Let’s be grateful for all the moments we have and the miracles we see everyday— sunrise, air, friends, freedom, little moments of joy and life itself.

The 3 Wise Monkeys Of Gandhi


The 3 wise monkeys, and the associated proverb, are known throughout Asia and in the Western world.

The phrase see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil first emerged in Japan in the 17th century and was later adopted worldwide as a message of peace and tolerance due to Mahatma Gandhi’s visual metaphor of the three monkeys, with one of them covering his eyes, the second his mouth, and the third his ears.

There are various meanings ascribed to the monkeys and the proverb including associations with being of good mind, speech and action.

The vision of these three monkeys is a way to peacefully fight against contemporary colonialism, oppression and injustice.

According to Osho Rajneesh, the monkey symbolism originated in ancient Hindu tradition and Buddhist monks spread this symbolism across Asia. The original version contains 4 monkeys and the fourth monkey covers his genitals—means don’t do anything evil.

What Is Pride? And Why It Maybe Dangerous?


This blog post is one of those ideas that keep creeping in my mad mind. I am not a learned man and so this may or maybe not be relevant for you at all, but do take a look at my perspective.


I love interrobang—it gives me so much freedom to express. But anyway, let’s get back to our point.

Often, we hear the sentence I am proud of you or I feel so proud, don’t we? Although, the dictionary meaning of pride is to feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one’s own achievements, there’s more to the meaning.

Means, there are more layers and hidden vibrations attached with this word and I love to dig out the hidden part; that may or may not be the true—this is all from ancient wisdom and my personal experiences with life.

Pride is a two-faced emotion. On the one hand it can be noble and good, and on the other it can be selfish and mean. It all depends on how it is used and not everyone knows how to use it.

Pride—one of the seven deadly sins—is just one-step behind false ego. Read closely, not ego, false ego. Ego is essentially everything you identify yourself with. So, you can show signs of n false ego if you possess traits of arrogance and narcissism. But the false ego is more complicated than how you may think you’re better than anyone else—it can destroy you from inside and outside both.

From inside, you always think that you’re better than others and that may not be the case and from the outside people will stay away from you. People will resent your company because people usually like simple and humble people. No one wants a pride-monger or an narcissistic besides them.

I was the victim of the pride-turned-false-ego some yeas ago. I was doing good in my career and received several appreciations from organization and peers. The appreciation often came in form of monetary benefits and I couldn’t control the temporary pleasure attached to it. The result—I tuned in to a narcissist.

It was only after some time that I—fortunately—realized that my pride has turned into a false ego and I need to let it go. This inspired me to do an inner journey and I planned a 4-year long sabbatical to get rid of this dangerous disease.

In this period, I read many books on ancient wisdom, studies different belief systems and met many scientific and spiritual people to discuss what I understood. The ancient wisdom was right, the pride turned itself into a dangerous monster because I couldn’t handle it. Read carefully, because I couldn’t handle it. That means feeling proud may not be dangerous if you can handle it.

But how many of us can?

I see parents and friends around me who use the words I am proud of to their close ones. I feel sacred. What if the same thing happens with their loved ones? And you can actually see that the world is full of people with false ego.

If you dig deep, it all started with the childhood. When the parent or teacher says the word I am proud of you, it ignites a feeling comparison in the children and they feel they’re better than others. This feeling cultivates as the children grow up and takes a dangerous form in adulthood. It’s like the balloon; the more you fill air, the more it grows and in the end, it bursts into pieces.

BTW, this is also one of the teachings of the great Buddha.

So, the next time you use the I am proud of sentence, please think about this blog post and the journey that word can make. Think about the destruction—of self—that sentence can do. Rest, use your wisdom and fine sense of judgement to analyze this blog post.

Lost About Your Purpose In Life? Read On


Do you have a sense of purpose?

I had been after years for more than a decade and finally, I have made it; I think so at the moment. The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of many; including yours.

Indeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that we can accomplish big things together—which may be why it’s linked to better physical and mental health. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense.

It helps both individuals and the species to survive. It becomes quite difficult to find the purpose of life but with little assistance from fellow human and introspection, you can do it. Here are some ideas that will help you:

  • Read: Reading connects us to people we’ll never know, across time and space. It’s one of the best ways to explore about various possibilities. So, if you’re feeling a crisis of purpose in your life, go to the bookstore or library or university. Find books that matter to you—and they might help you to see what matters in your own life.
  • Become a wounded healer: Of course, finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit; it’s something we need to feel. That’s why it can grow out of suffering, both our own and others’. We’re all wounded and we all the capacity to heal. Sometimes, another person’s pain can lead us to purpose.
  • Cultivate a forgiving attitude, kindness, gratitude and compassion: Certain emotions and behaviors that promote health and well-being can also foster a sense of purpose. Some basic values like forgiveness, kindness, gratitude and compassion go a long way in finding your purpose. When your practice these values in daily life, different incidents keep happening that in turn open a lot of doors.
  • Listen to what other people appreciate about you: Giving thanks can help you find your purpose. But you can also find purpose in what people thank you for. Although there is no research that directly explores how being thanked might fuel a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude strengthens relationships—and those are often the source of our purpose, as many of these stories suggest.
  • Find and build a community: If you’re having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. What do you have in common with them? What are they trying to be? What impact do you see them having on the world? Is that impact a positive one? Can you join with them in making that impact? What do they need? Can you give it them? If the answers to those questions don’t inspire you, then you might need to find a new community—and with that, a new purpose may come.
  • Write: Reading can help you find your purpose—but so can writing. This is a valuable reflective process to all people, and many take it one step further, by publishing by book or blog and turning it into a tool for social change.

In a nutshell, as per the Zen teachings, it’s simple learning to get outside your personal bubble.

In this path, it doesn’t matter what specific actions you take or skills you learn to make people’s lives better. What career you choose is not important—what matters is the bigger purpose. You can always change your career and learn new skills later, as you learn other ways to fulfill this purpose. You’ll learn over time.

But how to get out of the bubble? Here are some ideas:

  • You must see when you’re stuck in the bubble. Whenever you’re angry, frustrated, irritated, fearful, anxious, procrastinating, feeling hurt, wishing people would be different; you’re in the bubble. These are signs.
  • When you notice that you’re in the bubble, expand your mind and heart. See the bigger picture. Feel what others must be feeling. Try to understand rather than condemning. See how little and petty your concerns and fears have been.
  • Wish others well. Genuinely want their happiness, just as you want your own happiness. See their suffering and wish for it to end or lessen.
  • See how you can help. How can you lessen the suffering of others? Sometimes it’s just by paying attention, just listening. Other times you just need to be there, just lend a hand. You don’t need to go around solving everyone’s problems—they probably don’t want that. Just be there for them. And see if you can make people’s lives better—create something to make them smile.

Once we get out of the bubble, and see things with a wider view, we can start a journey along a path to our purpose.

What matters is becoming bigger than yourself. Once you do, you learn that you have a purpose in life.


Is Google Better Than Guru?


It’s a question that always haunts me. I am fortunate to have born in this era where I have sources of information, knowledge and wisdom.

I have Guru and I have Google.

Google is unmatched source of information and knowledge; no doubt about it. One can find answers to almost all the questions in the universe in this space. I am glad someone finally invented it.

Guru is someone who shows and leads the path of information and knowledge; especially when the followers at there own are incapable of doing so.

Both can’t be compared as such.

But I feel, that while Google provides information and knowledge, Guru goes a step further and can help to apply the information and knowledge in life—the heart of wisdom.

But Guru may not be available 24 x 7 like Google.

Today, we have air-planes with autopilot functionality, self-driven driver-less cars around us but still we need whole cabin crew just because there are certain instances where only human interference can solve the problems and not the machines.

And guess what, some Guru must have invented Google and maybe its the new-age Guru; who knows?!

Although, this might remain a life-long question but we can use our own consciousness and find an answer to this as per our circumstances, belief system, understanding of self and perspective of life.

HBD Buddha! But When Were You Really Born?


Why are you playing such loud music?

We’re celebrating our festival?

Nice. Please tell me about it.

It’s our God’s birthday.

Who is your God?


But Buddha doesn’t believe or preach in a personal God, as per my little knowledge?

What? What do you mean by that?

Forget it. But what are you celebrating?

We’re celebrating Buddha’s birthday—it’s May 22 and he was born today.

Which year is this?

No idea.

But on May 22, Prince Siddhartha Gautama was born. He became a Buddha many years later.

What? What do you mean by that?

Do you know what is a Buddha?

No idea. Please let me celebrate our festival.

22nd May warrants a grand celebration in our country. Every year, the followers of Buddhism—specially the slums around my home—celebrate this day; violently as per my observation. They play on sleazy loud music, block the roads and burst heavy quantities of fire-crackers.

Some of them are under the spell of alcohol and most of them are under the spell of rage, ego and illusion.

Although, neither so I or most of these followers have infinite knowledge about the historical facts but I have read several books on the subject. I have understood a little about the man, the phenomena and the belief system.

This blog post is my perspective on finding the birthday of the Buddha based on whatever little I know; although one may choose to disagree.

Buddha means the one who is enlightened. I am a zero, nothing.

I feel that that what these followers are celebrating is the birthday of the prince who was a body and quit his luxurious life to find answers to certain questions that were running mercilessly in his mind—the question of birth, death, poverty, peace and happiness.

The story of this great teacher and divine soul need not be told in this blog post; everyone knows that but we really need to find the truth behind his birthday.

People are lost. They have no clue.

I have asked this question or let me put it up that I have discussed this with hundreds of followers but all in vain. No one has any perspective about this one; they just plainly follow what others do or what their family or friends or political leaders say. Only a handful few—who I feel are deeply rooted in the true teachings of Buddhism—could share a radical perspective.

My 4-year long sabbatical has really helped to find some facts and put certain things in perspective.

I feel that the prince started to become the enlightened one when he saw a sick person, an aged person, a corpse, and a holy man. Maybe, those are the moments that triggered the birth of the enlightened one in him.

Later, he spent 6-7 years traveling across India to discover the truth of birth, death, peace of mind and happiness; true and everlasting happiness. Maybe, those are the moments that triggered the birth of the enlightened one in him.

As per popular culture, he attained enlightenment under a certain tree in India. But is he was already one, then how can he attain enlightenment? He must have been already enlightened.

There’s some serious problem with the expression of facts and ideas.

Prince Siddhartha spent a lot of time to find answers to questions that have been haunting humanity since time immemorial. It was more of a self-study pilgrimage and in the pilgrimage, he learnt—and mastered—the art and craft of kindness, compassion, forgiveness and gratitude. Maybe, those are the moments that triggered the birth of the enlightened one in him.

What I want to put forth is that no one can ever know the birth-date the enlightened one or when the prince became one.

Maybe, the onslaught of questions in his mind made him one, maybe the journey to find answers made him one or maybe he suddenly realized himself and all his questions came to an end, and that made him one. Maybe, the making of the enlightened one was a long transition or a nano-second reaction.

Who knows?

I don’t think we are fortunate or smart enough to calculate the real birth-date of Buddha; not by the parameter of nonsensical or political materialism. We may come close to understand the process of the birth through the lens of spiritualism but believe me, he must be really surprised and unhappy to see the way people celebrate his birthday—without a fraction of teachings of Buddhism—specially in the slums near my home in Mumbai.

This is gone too far and has become lengthy.

Let’s conclude it and let the followers be happy with a sham birth-date of the enlightened one and let me dig more until I become one myself.



There’s Receiving In Every Giving


Many of us grew up believing that it’s more noble to give than to receive. This proclamation safeguards us from becoming self-centred monsters—scanning our environment to see what we can extract to fill ourselves.

But this may turn us into a narcissist because we think we become great as we’re giving, and just giving.

But I have a different perspective on this.

The world is in a continuous state of circulation and slow. Whatever it is, everything is in continuous motion and has equal and opposite response.

There is no one-side energy flow—it’s an energy exchange.

As we give, we get; at the same time.

Many times, we give and expect to get back something; similar to the value of what we have given but we don’t get it back. This makes us sad.

But one thing to learn is that even if we don’t get that material exchange, we’re getting lots of love, blessing and happy chemicals in return. When we give, we get a joyful feeling and the brain releases hormones like dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphin that brings a lot of peace, joy and good vibes in the body.

This helps us become a better human.

So, next time when you give and don’t get something—of similar value back—remember that you’re getting much more than just the material stuff.

You’re getting a better version of you in return.