The Tree Of Life

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No, this article is not about deforestation but this is about me. I am a selfish person and most of the blog posts are about me or things that revolve around me.

Being selfish has opened doors for me like never before. It’s because of being selfish that I got the opportunity to introspect, and begin a self-study tour; what we usually call spiritual journey.

From a distance, it looks like I was doing a lot of social work, getting connect to supreme spirit. But the fact it that I was looking inside, connecting with myself.

The photograph of this half-cut tree has many meanings for me—vulgar display of power, road to somewhere or nowhere, journey is process, tale of valor and sacrifice, helplessness, transformation, and of course the simplest of all of it; deforestation. But, I am sure something is about to happen; something is on the way.

The state of the tree looks like that of my heart; after the heart-break of 2001 and again of 2005. My heart was not sure why was it broken? And the best part was that it remained half broken for a long time. There was some work going on; it was in a process of being crushed or in the path of transformation.

After a lot of introspect, I realized that my heart was as old as the tree in the photograph. In fact, it might be more ancient as Indian mythology has lot of information about the eternal soul.  Maybe, my heart is also in the transformation process like the tree in the photograph.

This is 2017, and Mumbai is upgrading. The news of deforestation is everywhere. Some say that thousands of trees will be cut, some say these trees will be a martyr in the war of development, and some say that these trees will be a reason for transformation of the city.

Million mouths have million words.

I read somewhere that there was no oxygen on planet Earth. Then came these green beings and provided oxygen for human to evolve. I have also heard that one prince became the great Buddha under a tree. I have also observed women in India tie threads around a tree and offering prayers. I also remember my father telling me bed time stories that had a tree as the main character.

Our world like a banyan tree that has different branches. Bhagavad Gita 15:1.

Bhagavad Gita is all about transformation and through the above quote it has something radical to offer; in my little understanding. On one hand, it brings out the importance of a tree and on the other side it brings on the importance of impermanence.

Nothing is permanent, as per all ancient scriptures. And be it Bhagavad Gita or Quran, all scriptures emphasize about a supreme doer. So, the question is who is cutting the trees? Is it human or is the supreme doer? Is mythology a truth? If there is an eternal soul what are we cribbing about? Does the concept of soul exist or is it only for humans? Is there something as death or is just transformation of one form into another? Is spirituality rational or is it just good for books? If everything is anyways going to end one day what are we lamenting upon? So many questions and so less time.

There are 7.5 billion people in this world. All of them have different perspectives? It’s difficult for me to understand who is right or wrong? Everyone is full of half knowledge and subjective perspective. Scientists, philosophers, spiritualists, activists, rationalists, believers, non-believers, politicians, artists etc. All have their own logic and reasons.

The whole world is full of contrasts. Opposites. Who is right? Who is wrong? I don’t know. If I don’t take this side, this group is angry, if I don’t that side, that group is irritated. Everyone has taken one side—have chosen either black or white. But, I am in the grey and I think most of the life happens here; at least for me.

Whatever, but this photograph has raised a million questions in my mind. It has ignited a cold fire of finding the truth, the eternal truth. Is this development? Can there be any other way? Because all the cities were built by massive deforestation. I am sure there might be more sides to this.

Humans are considered as most intelligent species on the planet and I am sure there might be more ways to progress that we can achieve collectively instead of just blaming or clapping.

 

Husband And Wife In Islam

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Marriage is a sacred bond entered into by two people who are committed in their goal to fulfill their lives and attain the pleasure of their creator. It’s also a natural human impulse to want to share your life with someone special and create a family.

When everything is new, it is easy to remain enthusiastic, but the reality is that somehow along the way in that journey, many people lose sight of the beauty in a good marriage and fall into negative patterns. The truth is that the bond between a husband and wife in Islam is something that needs to be grown and cultivated with equal effort from both sides.

Your wives are a clothing for you and you too are a clothing for them. Quran 2:187.

What this essentially means, is that each marriage partner has the responsibility to protect the other’s honor. Marriage is the ultimate act of team work. With this in mind, protect your partner, speak positive into their life. Remember that you aren’t just a marital partner, but the other half of a winning team. Bearing this in mind, you owe it yourself and your marriage to fuel your mind with positive energy and how you do this is by reinforcing the good times. Speak about your joys, talk about those things that make you both laugh, highlight each other’s positive attributes and qualities. It’s in this manner that you give your marriage a firm foundation to stand upon.

And of His signs is that He has created spouses for yourselves from your own selves so you might take comfort in them and He has created love and mercy among both of you. In this there is evidence—of the truth—for the people who carefully think. Quran 30:21.

Love and mercy should be the hallmarks of any solid marriage and relationship. We see that it’s stipulated within the scriptures. But is this truly what is practiced in modern daily life? The truth is that once you are in a routine, with a person that you’ve been married to for a while, it is easy to take certain acts of kindness for granted. Just taking the time to articulate the words thank you between a husband and wife, is a good start. You can also express your gratitude through acts of consideration, doing something thoughtful or using your own perception to do something meaningful for your partner.

When all is said and done, there are a number of ways in which to add positive energy to a marriage.  Often, the spice that is missing in a marriage comes in the simple form of being kinder, listening more and taking the other’s thoughts and feelings into consideration.