Life Is Too Simple, We Complicate It

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Before we comprehend the simplicity of life let us understand our role in it. People are complicators; they convert simple things into something horribly complex and difficult to interpret.

The only reason we have something called sixth-sense is to complicate things. But then think about it, without making things complicated we might feel extremely dull and demotivated, and then there is no point in whatever we do. With that note, let’s get one thing straight; life is void, it has no meaning or purpose. You can live without making plans and without proving squat.

The perfectly sane way to lead life would be to accept its simplicity and enjoy every privilege dawned upon us humans. But that makes us a bunch of monkeys jumping around and doing nothing but enjoying life. If not for complications, we wouldn’t have gravity, airplanes, clothes, money, education, work, success, failure, love etc.

Life is too simple; we complicate it, and that’s what makes it more beautiful and purposeful.

15 Simple Ways To Live A Truly Happy Life

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Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.

Happiness is one of the most sought-after goals in life, yet for many it seems to be elusive. A big house or a new car won’t actually make you happier; it’s the simple joys in life that bring true happiness. Read on to learn 15 simple ways that you can start living a happier life today:

  1. Do what you love.
  2. Help others.
  3. Be thankful.
  4. Share with others.
  5. Smile more.
  6. Exercise.
  7. Consult a life coach.
  8. Find ways to manage stress.
  9. Eat healthy.
  10. Spend time with your loved ones.
  11. Be realistic; neither positive nor negative.
  12. Give more gifts.
  13. Forgive.
  14. Reconnect with mother nature.
  15. Be yourself.

This recipe does work; almost every time. I promise.

Life Hack: Welcome Suffering, Pain and Negativity In Your Life

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I am 38 now and I had been reading and trying to understand the wisdom of life since a long time. I read quite a lot of ancient scriptures and books on various subjects; ranging from science to philosophy. I also went one step ahead to take a 4-year sabbatical to understand my self and life.

Every belief system has it’s own philosophy regarding leading a life but I like to find my own truth and live it.

I think there’s a lot of noise about suffering, pain and especially negativity. People are big on negativity stuff. They’re going crazy over it—abusing the word.

I feel that life is a random combination of everything—all the emotions and adjectives. Life doesn’t live in isolation or with a specific set of parameters.

I don’t think things ever get solved. They just come together for a while and fall back gain.

And it keeps happening.

Personal growth and realization comes from letting everything happen in your life. There has to be enough of grief- relief, misery-joy, suffering-happiness, negativity-positivity and all of that.

After all it’s about dualism.

Life is like a stick with two opposites. It looks opposite but is,  actually, complementary. One side can’t exist without other.

Never.

Suffering and pain comes from wishing things were different. But many a times they’re not. It’s not in our hand and if we believe in the concept of the supreme almighty, then surely it’s not in our hand.

It’s a divine design.

Accept and appreciate that someone supreme and better is guiding us. Be patient and give time—and universe—a chance.

मन का हो तो अच्छा है |
ना हो तो और अच्छा है |
Dr. Harivansh Rai Bachchan

Negativity comes as a friend or body-guard. It’s like the thorns below the roses. There’s nothing bad in it. Like there can be no light without darkness, there will be no positive without negative.

Negative also means empty and unless there is emptiness, there can’t be abundance. A good example is of zero.

If your bank balance is zero, you say I am in negative but at the back of mind, you always want more zeroes to be added after any digit. This zero is situational and temporary—as said above—and becomes negative and positive as per time and circumstances.

Suffering, pain and negativity are there for a reason.

Everything is for a reason.

Let the hard things in life break you, affect you and change you. Le the hard times inform you.

Let suffering, pain and negativity be your teacher. It will go ways once it has finished teaching you. All of it is here to teach us. It’s like a guest who has come in our home-sweet-home.

Welcome it. Serve it. Please it. Befriend it.

Who knows it may never come back? And you may have nothing in life, not even suffering, pain and negativity.

The secret of living a successful and prosperous life—as per my little understanding—is to accept and appreciate all that comes to you. After all everything is situational and temporary, says ancient wisdom.

Don’t run away from suffering, pain and negativity.  Don’t shut your doors for them.

What is the lesson in suffering? What is pain trying to tell you? What will you learn if you face negativity?

Learn from it.

Maybe, suffering, pain and negativity is the key to your problem; door to another dimension—the dimension to ultimate and everlasting happiness.

 

Gratitude Is Good For You

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Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and showing appreciation. It’s  a mindful acknowledgment of all that we have been given. When we focus on the abundance in our lives, we discover a greater capacity for generosity, cheerfulness, and contentment.

Expressing gratitude is a rewarding habit that affirms the grace of the giver. Gratitude opens our hearts, encourages us to savor each gift that comes our way, and magically frees us from jealously guarding our possessions. It lets us celebrate today rather than waiting for the next level of accomplishment or wealth. It’s a reminder that one can always find reason to be glad.

10 Ways To Be Happier!

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Few years ago, on a morning like any other, I had a sudden realization: I was in danger of wasting my life. I decided on the spot to begin a systematic study of happiness. It did. I made myself happier. And along the way I learned a lot about how to be happier. Here are those lessons.

  1. Exercise more—7 minutes might be enough.
  2. Sleep more—you’ll be less sensitive to negative emotions.
  3. Move closer to work—a short commute is worth more than a big house.
  4. Spend time with friends and family—don’t regret it on your deathbed.
  5. Go outside—happiness is maximized outdoors.
  6. Help others—100 hours a year is the magical number.
  7. Practice smiling—it can alleviate pain.
  8. Plan a trip—try it alone.
  9. Meditate—rewire your brain for happiness.
  10. Practice gratitude— increase both happiness and life satisfaction.

I love to be happier, as I’m sure most people would, so I thought it would be interesting to find some ways to become a happier person that are actually backed up by science. All the best.

 

Why Happiness Is So Important?

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Happiness is so important to us, both as individuals and as a world, primarily because happiness is really all there is. As human beings, although we possess cognitive abilities and are highly thought oriented, the quality of our lives is ultimately entirely determined by our emotions. For example, which life would you rather have; that of a very rich, attractive, successful, healthy, powerful person who despite all of those blessings is very unhappy or that of a very poor, unattractive, unsuccessful, unhealthy and powerless person who is nevertheless fortunate enough to be very happy?

Considering happiness within the framework of good and evil, or right and wrong, we find that what is evil or wrong is only undesirable because it diminishes the happiness of an individual or group, and that what is good and right is only so because it increases the happiness of and individual or group.

Happiness, which includes the pleasant emotions and moods that comprise it, is really the only aspect of our lives with any ultimate value. Aristotle described it as the highest good. Of what value is any good except that it facilitates the happiness, or greater happiness, of human beings and other life on our planet?

Happiness is not only important to our personal and societal lives, it’s also important to our global community. Unhappiness breeds wars and terrorism. Countries who unjustly attack other countries are doing so because they are not happy with certain international realities. As individuals and as societies, happiness is both our highest goal and an extremely effective means of achieving many of our other cherished goals. Both as individuals and as a planet, happiness is our ultimate reason for living.  Happiness is really all there is and all there ever will be; all else is only a means to happiness.

The biggest lesson that one can from great philosophers like Aristotle and Chanakya is the sense of achievement, as well as the sense of fulfillment, are equally important. You cannot run behind your goals all the time without spending time with people you love. Developing the bond of love, being happy, having faith is an essential part of human life.

Forgive And Feel Happier

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Few people realize the huge impact the ability to forgive can have on their happiness, nor do most people think of this as a skill that they need to teach and practice with their children. But important it is: forgiving people tend to be happier, healthier, and more empathetic.

The inability to forgive, on the other hand, tends to make us into those people—we all know a few—who can’t seem to stop plotting revenge or ruminating about how they’ve been wronged. Researchers find unforgiving people tend to be hateful, angry, and hostile—which also makes them anxious, depressed, and neurotic. So, unless we are okay with our children embodying those qualities, we need to teach them how and why to forgive others.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.

Forgiving is tough business. It takes courage and resolve to let go of negative feelings when we’ve been wronged. Fortunately, it gets easier with practice; especially if we start with the small stuff and get in the habit early on—and it makes us stronger and better people.