Positive Ideas To Stop Negative Thinking

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Negative thinking can ruin your life. It’s not a joke; this is one of the major obstacles towards happiness. Even when you’re on your way to achieving something great, the negative thoughts can stress you out.

  • I said the wrong thing again. How could I be so stupid?
  • I hate this job. But I couldn’t possibly leave. It will be hard to find a new job. The new one will probably be just as bad, if not worse.
  • I don’t deserve to be happy. That’s why bad things happen to me all the time.
  • I have a bad life.
  • I am really unlucky, good things can never happen to me.

Those were only a few examples of negative thinking patterns. Do you notice how infectious they are? Your mind just needs a trigger, and it will easily go down the whirling of negative thinking.

Although, the negativity—like a teacher—also comes to teach us something but fortunately, there are ways to fight and stop negative thoughts. Let’s explore them:

  • Change your mindset: Positive emotions as nutrients. We need to eat our fruits and veggies to stay healthy, right? Well, we also need a healthy dose of positive vibes on a daily basis, so we’ll keep preserving our psychological health, too. we can all get there if we just recognize the negative thinking patterns and start fighting them. The following methods on our list will help with that.
  • Practice loving-kindness meditation: In this type of meditation, the practitioner is focused on wishing well-being for themselves, for the people they love, and all other people; the planet itself. They start from themselves and expand that point of interest to indefinite limits. The findings showed signs of psychological and physiological changes in people who did this meditation. So, try to practice the meditation of love and kindness. You have those emotions in you. When you allow them to prevail, they will help you overcome the negative thinking patterns.
  • Express positive emotions: Just relax. Smile and greet people. Be there for them. Tell some jokes. This won’t be acting. You’ll still be aware of your inner state of being. However, the efforts you’re making will reflect on that inner state too.
  • Spend more time with positive people: Negative people will suck the good vibes away. They are like parasites that leave you with no signs of a positive attitude when you spend time with them. You can’t avoid all negative people, but you can try to spend more time with positive friends and family members. These are the people who do their best to be good. They make you feel happy, energised, and motivated. Search for these people. Spend time with them.
  • Plan a good day: When you arrange your day in a good way, you’ll be more focused to achieve your goals. At the end of the day, you’ll feel better about yourself.
  • Be grateful: Acknowledge the success you already achieved. When the negative thoughts attack, it’s time to fight them back. Sometimes you hit a low point in life. That’s okay. Just stop and give yourself some credit for what you’ve achieved so far. You’ll probably start thinking of the long way that’s still ahead, and the negative thoughts will come up again. Just remember: it’s the journey you have to appreciate.
  • Develop a gratitude attitude: Appreciating others really feels good and it’s a booster for a healthy mind. Find your own little ways to appreciate people—I keep little THANK YOU cards.
  • Read: The habit of reading can take you to another level because the information and wisdom is already out there. You might find new perspectives and different ways to combat this monster. Diving into a good book opens up a whole world of knowledge starting from a very young age.
  • Write: Did you know that a daily practice of writing can make you happier? It’s similar to meditation in that aspect. When you write about your day, you give yourself a chance to re-evaluate the events, thoughts, and emotions you’ve been through. Write about trauma, so you can understand and overcome it. However, you shouldn’t focus on the negative thoughts. Include things you’re grateful about.
  • Never postpone joy: Life is much better when you’re. So, next time you want to do something, just go for it.

We cannot force positive emotions and suppress negative thoughts. The negative thoughts will still appear from time to time. With enough effort, however, we can overcome them. We can make our positive side stronger!

Life Is Too Simple, We Complicate It


Before we comprehend the simplicity of life let us understand our role in it. People are complicators; they convert simple things into something horribly complex and difficult to interpret.

The only reason we have something called sixth-sense is to complicate things. But then think about it, without making things complicated we might feel extremely dull and demotivated, and then there is no point in whatever we do. With that note, let’s get one thing straight; life is void, it has no meaning or purpose. You can live without making plans and without proving squat.

The perfectly sane way to lead life would be to accept its simplicity and enjoy every privilege dawned upon us humans. But that makes us a bunch of monkeys jumping around and doing nothing but enjoying life. If not for complications, we wouldn’t have gravity, airplanes, clothes, money, education, work, success, failure, love etc.

Life is too simple; we complicate it, and that’s what makes it more beautiful and purposeful.

15 Simple Ways To Live A Truly Happy Life


Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.

Happiness is one of the most sought-after goals in life, yet for many it seems to be elusive. A big house or a new car won’t actually make you happier; it’s the simple joys in life that bring true happiness. Read on to learn 15 simple ways that you can start living a happier life today:

  1. Do what you love.
  2. Help others.
  3. Be thankful.
  4. Share with others.
  5. Smile more.
  6. Exercise.
  7. Consult a life coach.
  8. Find ways to manage stress.
  9. Eat healthy.
  10. Spend time with your loved ones.
  11. Be realistic; neither positive nor negative.
  12. Give more gifts.
  13. Forgive.
  14. Reconnect with mother nature.
  15. Be yourself.

This recipe does work; almost every time. I promise.

Life Hack: Welcome Suffering, Pain and Negativity In Your Life


I am 38 now and I had been reading and trying to understand the wisdom of life since a long time. I read quite a lot of ancient scriptures and books on various subjects; ranging from science to philosophy. I also went one step ahead to take a 4-year sabbatical to understand my self and life.

Every belief system has it’s own philosophy regarding leading a life but I like to find my own truth and live it.

I think there’s a lot of noise about suffering, pain and especially negativity. People are big on negativity stuff. They’re going crazy over it—abusing the word.

I feel that life is a random combination of everything—all the emotions and adjectives. Life doesn’t live in isolation or with a specific set of parameters.

I don’t think things ever get solved. They just come together for a while and fall back gain.

And it keeps happening.

Personal growth and realization comes from letting everything happen in your life. There has to be enough of grief- relief, misery-joy, suffering-happiness, negativity-positivity and all of that.

After all it’s about dualism.

Life is like a stick with two opposites. It looks opposite but is,  actually, complementary. One side can’t exist without other.


Suffering and pain comes from wishing things were different. But many a times they’re not. It’s not in our hand and if we believe in the concept of the supreme almighty, then surely it’s not in our hand.

It’s a divine design.

Accept and appreciate that someone supreme and better is guiding us. Be patient and give time—and universe—a chance.

मन का हो तो अच्छा है |
ना हो तो और अच्छा है |
Dr. Harivansh Rai Bachchan

Negativity comes as a friend or body-guard. It’s like the thorns below the roses. There’s nothing bad in it. Like there can be no light without darkness, there will be no positive without negative.

Negative also means empty and unless there is emptiness, there can’t be abundance. A good example is of zero.

If your bank balance is zero, you say I am in negative but at the back of mind, you always want more zeroes to be added after any digit. This zero is situational and temporary—as said above—and becomes negative and positive as per time and circumstances.

Suffering, pain and negativity are there for a reason.

Everything is for a reason.

Let the hard things in life break you, affect you and change you. Le the hard times inform you.

Let suffering, pain and negativity be your teacher. It will go ways once it has finished teaching you. All of it is here to teach us. It’s like a guest who has come in our home-sweet-home.

Welcome it. Serve it. Please it. Befriend it.

Who knows it may never come back? And you may have nothing in life, not even suffering, pain and negativity.

The secret of living a successful and prosperous life—as per my little understanding—is to accept and appreciate all that comes to you. After all everything is situational and temporary, says ancient wisdom.

Don’t run away from suffering, pain and negativity.  Don’t shut your doors for them.

What is the lesson in suffering? What is pain trying to tell you? What will you learn if you face negativity?

Learn from it.

Maybe, suffering, pain and negativity is the key to your problem; door to another dimension—the dimension to ultimate and everlasting happiness.


Gratitude Is Good For You

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Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and showing appreciation. It’s  a mindful acknowledgment of all that we have been given. When we focus on the abundance in our lives, we discover a greater capacity for generosity, cheerfulness, and contentment.

Expressing gratitude is a rewarding habit that affirms the grace of the giver. Gratitude opens our hearts, encourages us to savor each gift that comes our way, and magically frees us from jealously guarding our possessions. It lets us celebrate today rather than waiting for the next level of accomplishment or wealth. It’s a reminder that one can always find reason to be glad.

10 Ways To Be Happier!

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Few years ago, on a morning like any other, I had a sudden realization: I was in danger of wasting my life. I decided on the spot to begin a systematic study of happiness. It did. I made myself happier. And along the way I learned a lot about how to be happier. Here are those lessons.

  1. Exercise more—7 minutes might be enough.
  2. Sleep more—you’ll be less sensitive to negative emotions.
  3. Move closer to work—a short commute is worth more than a big house.
  4. Spend time with friends and family—don’t regret it on your deathbed.
  5. Go outside—happiness is maximized outdoors.
  6. Help others—100 hours a year is the magical number.
  7. Practice smiling—it can alleviate pain.
  8. Plan a trip—try it alone.
  9. Meditate—rewire your brain for happiness.
  10. Practice gratitude— increase both happiness and life satisfaction.

I love to be happier, as I’m sure most people would, so I thought it would be interesting to find some ways to become a happier person that are actually backed up by science. All the best.


Why Happiness Is So Important?

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Happiness is so important to us, both as individuals and as a world, primarily because happiness is really all there is. As human beings, although we possess cognitive abilities and are highly thought oriented, the quality of our lives is ultimately entirely determined by our emotions. For example, which life would you rather have; that of a very rich, attractive, successful, healthy, powerful person who despite all of those blessings is very unhappy or that of a very poor, unattractive, unsuccessful, unhealthy and powerless person who is nevertheless fortunate enough to be very happy?

Considering happiness within the framework of good and evil, or right and wrong, we find that what is evil or wrong is only undesirable because it diminishes the happiness of an individual or group, and that what is good and right is only so because it increases the happiness of and individual or group.

Happiness, which includes the pleasant emotions and moods that comprise it, is really the only aspect of our lives with any ultimate value. Aristotle described it as the highest good. Of what value is any good except that it facilitates the happiness, or greater happiness, of human beings and other life on our planet?

Happiness is not only important to our personal and societal lives, it’s also important to our global community. Unhappiness breeds wars and terrorism. Countries who unjustly attack other countries are doing so because they are not happy with certain international realities. As individuals and as societies, happiness is both our highest goal and an extremely effective means of achieving many of our other cherished goals. Both as individuals and as a planet, happiness is our ultimate reason for living.  Happiness is really all there is and all there ever will be; all else is only a means to happiness.

The biggest lesson that one can from great philosophers like Aristotle and Chanakya is the sense of achievement, as well as the sense of fulfillment, are equally important. You cannot run behind your goals all the time without spending time with people you love. Developing the bond of love, being happy, having faith is an essential part of human life.