Working for happiness is our very nature. But that doesn’t mean you won’t face sorrow. It’s an important part of your search for authentic happiness.
If you live life, sorrow will happen. The more you live, the more you love, and the more intensely you live and love, the greater the booties, but also the greater the sorrows. Some of these sorrows will come and then ultimately go.
For instance, the sorrow of breaking up with a first lover, while it can be unusually strong at the time, will fade over the years into a learning experience, one you may even laugh about someday.
The sorrow of death a child, parent, or spouse, on the other hand, will remain a part of you for as long as you remain.
The pain can’t be streamlined away. The pain can’t be disguised. Nor, however, does the sorrow mean you aren’t allowed to feel happiness. Indeed, the sorrow is there to be embraced so that, even though it, you may feel a greater sense of pleasure. Not necessarily the pleasure of immediate laughter, but the deeper joy of gratitude.
Instead of trying to run from or cover sorrow, it’s there to be embraced and cultivated. Sorrow means you were given a gift; that pain means you were given something worthwhile to experience.
In a world with absolutely no assurances, you were granted something beautiful for a while. Whether it was a relationship or another being that was important to your being or something else, you were given a gift so worthwhile that sorrow has flowered inside you now that something is gone.
Imagine a world without such gifts. That would be a true tragedy.
And if, by the way, you feel you didn’t treasure the gift that is now gone enough while it was here, recognize these two keys: first, just as you forgive others, you must forgive yourself.
Remember that you’ve done something right enough to identify the value of the gift. You don’t feel sorrow for something you don’t value. And it’s never too late to feel such gratitude, to value.
That’s the beauty of the gift.
You may no longer be able to get what or who it’s that you hurt for the back. But the abundance of the gift remains. Your sorrow proves it. So, embrace it.
It’ll help you remain aware of the greater happiness that the sorrow is draped within. It’ll help you move toward all the joys you so deserve. And there’s plenty of them. They too are waiting for you.