Striving toward happiness is our very nature. But that doesn’t mean you won’t experience sorrow. In fact, sorrow is an important part of your pursuit of true and everlasting happiness.
If you live life, sorrow will occur. The more you live, the more you love, and the more deeply you live and love, the greater the rewards, but also the greater the sorrows. Some of these sorrows will come and then eventually go.
For instance, the sorrow of breaking up with a first girlfriend or boyfriend, while it can be remarkably intense at the time, will fade over the years into a learning experience, one you may even laugh about someday.
The sorrow of losing a child, on the other hand, will remain a part of you for as long as you remain.
The pain cannot be rationalized away. The pain cannot be masked. Nor, however, does the sorrow mean you are not allowed to feel happiness. Indeed, the sorrow is there to be embraced so that, even through it, you may feel a greater sense of joy. Not necessarily the joy of immediate laughter, but the deeper joy of gratitude.
Instead of trying to run from or mask sorrow, it is there to be embraced and nurtured. Sorrow means you were given a gift; that pain means you were given something worth rejoicing in.
In a world with absolutely no guarantees, you were granted something beautiful for a while. Whether it was a relationship or another being that was important to your being or something else, you were granted a gift so worthwhile that sorrow has blossomed inside you now that the something is gone.
Imagine a world without such gifts. That would be true tragedy.
And if, by the way, you feel you did not cherish the gift that is now gone enough while it was here, recognize these two keys: first, just as you forgive others for being human, you must forgive yourself.
Remember that you have done something right enough to recognize the value of the gift. You don’t feel sorrow for something you don’t cherish. And it is never too late to feel such gratitude, to cherish. That is the beauty of the gift.
You may no longer be able to get what or who it is that you hurt for back. But the bounty of the gift remains. Your sorrow proves it. So, embrace it.
It will help you remain aware of the greater happiness that the sorrow is wrapped within. It will help you move toward all the joys you so deserve. And there are plenty of them. They too are waiting for you.