This blog post in not my original idea. It was first suggested to me by my friend Shalini Menon who is a multi-talented woman, a mother, an actor and an entrepreneur. I might soon write a blog post on her—she’s too good!
We were talking about first impressions and got a carried away in a lot of discussions about our experiences. The event of first impression is quite common and interesting to explore. Everyone sees everyone with a different perspective.
In psychology, a first impression is the event when one person first encounters another person and forms a mental image of that person. Impression accuracy varies depending on the observer and the target—person, object, scene—being observed. First impressions are based on a wide range of characteristics—age, race, culture, language, gender, physical appearance, accent, posture, voice, number of people present, and time allowed to process. The first impressions individuals give to others could greatly influence how they are treated and viewed in many contexts of everyday life.
It takes just one-tenth of a second for us to judge someone and make a first impression—OMG!
The rate at which different qualities are detected in first impressions may be linked to what has been important to survival from an evolutionary perspective. For example, trustworthiness and attractiveness were the two traits most quickly detected and evaluated in a study of human faces.
I feel, with first impression also comes the first intention. Different people meet each other with different intentions. A lot of women have spoken to me about the first intentions of men who meet them; and its mostly a sexual encounter or something close.
The bad thing about being judgmental or this event of first impression is that it can’t be validated. It doesn’t guarantee a specific output because all brains work differently, and all hearts work differently. One body is the transmitter and another is receiver but we may tend to lose a lot of information due to our understanding of life and human psychology.
If I take my own case during my teens and 20s, the first impression or rather intention was mostly having a sexual relationship the woman. Although, I was quite clear with her, that may not be her intention of meeting me. But at the end of the day I am at peace with myself because I never took wrong advantage to any women—I was always straight.
The beautiful is good effect is a very present phenomenon when dealing with first impressions of others, and I simply hate it. People have wicked and distorted definitions of beauty and look for it in opposite person.
We’re built to judge others quickly. Even if we’re presented with lots of evidence to the contrary, we’re attached to our initial impressions of people—which is why you should be aware of the impression you make on others.