I am 38 now and I had been reading and trying to understand the wisdom of life for a long time. I read quite a lot of ancient scriptures and books on various subjects; ranging from science to philosophy. I also went one step ahead to take a 4-year sabbatical to understand my self and life.
Every belief system has its own philosophy regarding leading a life but I like to find my own truth and live it.
I think there’s a lot of noise about suffering, pain and especially negativity. People are big on negativity stuff. They’re going crazy over it—abusing the word.
I feel that life is a random combination of everything—all the emotions and adjectives. Life doesn’t live in isolation or with a specific set of parameters.
I don’t think things ever get solved. They just come together for a while and fall back gain.
And it keeps happening.
Personal growth and realization come from letting everything happen in your life. There has to be enough of grief- relief, misery-joy, suffering-happiness, negativity-positivity and all of that.
After all, it’s about dualism.
Life is like a stick with two opposites. It looks opposite but is, actually, complementary. One side can’t exist without other.
Suffering and pain come from wishing things were different. But many times they’re not. It’s not in our hand and if we believe in the concept of the supreme almighty, then surely it’s not in our hand.
It’s a divine design.
Accept and appreciate that someone supreme and better is guiding us. Be patient and give time—and the universe—a chance.
मन का हो तो अच्छा है |
ना हो तो और अच्छा है |
Dr. Harivansh Rai Bachchan
Negativity comes as a friend or body-guard. It’s like the thorns below the roses. There’s nothing bad in it. Like there can be no light without darkness, there will be no positive without negative.
Negative also means empty and unless there is emptiness, there can’t be abundance. A good example is of zero.
If your bank balance is zero, you say I am in negative but at the back of mind, you always want more zeroes to be added after any digit. This zero is situational and temporary—as said above—and becomes negative and positive as per time and circumstances.
Suffering, pain, and negativity are there for a reason.
Everything is for a reason.
Let the hard things in life break you, affect you and change you. Let the hard times inform you.
Let suffering, pain, and negativity be your teacher. It will go ways once it has finished teaching you. All of it is here to teach us. It’s like a guest who has come in our home-sweet-home.
Welcome it. Serve it. Please it. Befriend it.
Who knows it may never come back? And you may have nothing in life, not even suffering, pain and negativity.
The secret of living a successful and prosperous life—as per my little understanding—is to accept and appreciate all that comes to you. After all, everything is situational and temporary, says ancient wisdom.
Don’t run away from suffering, pain, and negativity. Don’t shut your doors for them.
What is the lesson in suffering? What is the pain trying to tell you? What will you learn if you face negativity?
Learn from it.
Maybe, suffering, pain, and negativity is the key to your problem; door to another dimension—the dimension to ultimate and everlasting happiness.