How many times have we felt unhappy with life because we simply had too much idle time? I know it has happened in my own life. When I get bored, I get down, and I only snap out of it when I start to get busy again.
The thing is, we have to recognize this pattern and stay busy to keep our mood elevated. Find a hobby. Volunteer your free time. Learn to cook. Coach youth sports. There are endless possibilities for something to do if we take the time to look.
- Do what you love: You must find that calling that you were meant to do and go for it regardless of the pay. If you get good at anything there will always be a sector of people who are willing to pay it. This way you won’t be counting down the years left in your career, but counting up the years that you’ve been doing it and hoping for more. There is no retirement for me, I’ll do this till the day I die. There is more to life than just getting by.
- Have what you need: Things don’t make us happy, they may be exciting at first but once the thrill wears off you are just left with bills in the mail causing even more stress than before. If you minimize and simplify your life one step at a time you will create more freedom and free time to do the things that you enjoy. Money does not equal happiness, it is more just a tool to help you get the things you need. Don’t just buy things that you want, it’s a never-ending cycle. There is always another gadget to buy, another subscription to join, only causing you to fall further into debt and making it so you have to work more.
- Help other people: They say if you want to be happy, focus all of your attention on making other people happy and if you want to be miserable focus only on making yourself happy. We like to think we are independent but, in fact, we are interdependent beings.
If I put you on a desert island with nothing but your computer and Facebook friends you would end up being extremely lonely and very unhappy over time, we need each other.
Compassion, or concern for others, helps to humanize us and connect us making us feel like we are part of something bigger and, in return, making us feel better about ourselves and happier in the process.
Just start in small ways to care about others, it doesn’t happen overnight. You can train your mind to become anything you want, it just happens slowly over time. Set your intention to be a more compassionate and caring person and as time goes by you will become just that and end up a much happier person than when you began.